Sniffles, sneezes, and coughs. That’s what I woke up to Tuesday morning when I picked up my nine-month-old son, Brooks. I’ve been dreading this day since he was born. So far, we’ve dodged the cold bug, but I knew this day would come. And Tuesday just happened to be our unlucky day.
He wanted his mama to snuggle and cuddle him. Unfortunately, his mama had to hand him over to his grandma, Mimi, and head off to work. I cried the entire drive that morning.
I just couldn’t justify being away from my 150 students because the day before I attended a professional development workshop off-campus and didn’t want my students subjected to another substitute teacher; furthermore, I don’t have the time to take since I was on maternity leave last year. So, I trusted my mom would cuddle and spoil my sniffling little man.
Later that day, I received information that several events my student council kids had planned would need to be drastically changed after several weeks of planning and preparation. Cue the tears along with anger and frustration. Thank goodness I was at home for this emotional meltdown.
As I placed Brooks into the tub, I started to think about why I work so hard for so little pay and so much stress. And it donned on me as a bright light flicks on in a dark room. This is why so many teachers leave the profession.
We know Arizona faces a major teacher shortage in classrooms across the state, nearly 2,000 to be exact. Many studies cite a lack of pay and preparation for the students we teach as reasons why so many teachers leave. But I think they are missing a major reality: staying at home with your kids is appealing after a day like Tuesday.
I am really lucky I have Mimi several days a week and a nanny to pick up a couple of days to watch Brooks. But I know he is going to need daycare soon. But yikes! The cost of daycare is shocking. It’s nearly half of my take-home pay. It’s really difficult spending that much for someone else to watch my kid so I can teach other kids.
Next, the stress of planning, grading, calling parents, attending staff meetings, IEPS, 504s, school events, professional development workshops, let alone teaching in the classroom makes this more than a 40-hour workweek for many teachers, including myself.
Add grocery shopping, laundry, house chores, family events, cooking, packing lunches, and maybe sitting on the floor to read a story or two before bedtime makes balancing home and work seems nearly impossible.
I was chatting with two ladies recently, and I mentioned that I was a teacher. Both women said they taught first grade for seven years but left when they had kids. It was simply easier and more economical to stay home even though they loved teaching.
I am not writing this post because I want my readers to feel sorry for me. I am writing this post because we need programs that promote teacher retention. We need quality childcare that doesn’t cost an arm and leg. We need teacher pay that reflects the impact positive teachers have on society and the respect our profession deserves. We need to address this issue openly and honestly so we can keep highly qualified and experienced teachers in the classroom while adapting our infrastructure to meet their needs.
I don’t plan to leave teaching anytime soon. However, Tuesday made me stop and think about the stress many working parents experience in every profession. I am beyond lucky to have 150 kids remind me why I stay year after year. My students make low pay and high stress worth it. They remind me that one day Brooks will be sitting in a classroom, and I hope his teacher isn’t thinking of leaving but rather thinking of how he or she can push my son to be the best human being he can be.
Why do you stay?